Protip: Don't try to take control

I was talking to a really local boy (more local than most local boys) that I had found on grindr today. Grindr is a meat-market app for gay guys with iPhones. It's nice to see local boys who aren't in the normal chat rooms, but most them seem to be really looking for almost totally anonymous hook-ups right now, and that doesn't work for me or for most BDSM dominant men I've known. (Subs have it easier, at times, because they often don't mind vanilla encounters. Dominant men are less likely to feel the same way, IMHO.)

Anyway, I had enjoyed making him realize whose choice it was if we played (mine), agreed to his desire to wait a couple of weeks (he says he's a virgin), and had even more fun making him realize it was still my choice if we played tonight or not. But then I let him off the hook.

Unwisely, he then said that he wanted to keep talking about sexual stuff so he could get hard again and then resist temptation. Having done this for a few hours, I was kind of done with it, as I had decided to accept his proposal to wait a couple of weeks. I told him I wasn't going to continue that way, and he said:

What if I threaten to cut off contact unless you continue?

I replied:

Then I'll cut it off right now. Good night, boy.

I didn't log off, but I didn't see anything else from him, and now can't find him on grindr. Perhaps he logged off there, or perhaps he was just faking all along and didn't care how he pushed it.

But for those who mean to find a dominant man: do not threaten to take any part of control away from a Dominant man who's already established it. I don't know a single dominant man who would accept that, even in the slightest. When a sub spends part of the "get to know you" process threatening to do or not do something unless you do what he says, every Dominant man I know would just walk away without hesitating.

I'm not saying I wouldn't give the boy a second chance, as it was early in the process. But not a third. I've learned that lesson, at least.