Talking to me

I usually keep a second computer available while I work for tasks I don't want to do on my main computer, so I'm "online" much of the day - primarily on AIM, but also on gay.com, MSN, and Yahoo much of the time.

I don't put the screen names in the gay.com profile to avoid getting IM spam. Every now and then, I'll change AIM so that only people on my buddy list can see I'm online, but I keep a very small buddy list. Basically, if I tried to chat with you and you weren't very responsive, I take you off the buddy list so I don't [waste my time|bother you] (take your pick). If you then chat with me and become talkative later, I usually put you back on the buddy list.

When I shift to letting only buddies see me on AIM, though, it means those who weren't talkative lately won't see me at all. Gay.com is another story - since it is so full of assholes and self-important twinks, people who piss me off there go on the block list. They can see I'm online by my profile, but when they try to send me a private message, they get back a response telling them they don't get to do that, and I never see the message. Too bad for them.

People tend to think I'm not on gay.com because I don't go in public rooms. I haven't been in a public room in nearly a year, and currently have no plans to go back in one. Too much drama, too many pretty boys assuming everyone wants them, too many assumptions that I must want X or be like Y or demand without being asked.

So, yeah, I stopped wasting time there. :-)

But if you want to talk to me, just send me a message by name on gay.com, or drop me a note. If I know who you are, I'll get in touch. If I don't know you, explain why we should chat. Don't just assume I want you. (To my knowledge, as of this writing, I do not know and have never spoken with any of the people who have me on their "Hot Lists" on gay.com. I get these buddy requests from people who've never even said "boo" to me and they wonder why I don't add them as my validated friends. Yeesh.)