On communication

Another one of those things that shouldn't need to be spelled out, but:

If you're normally from around here, but out-of-state for the summer or winter or whatever, I'm perfectly sympathetic to your protestations that you wish you were here, you'd really rather be here submitting, you're going to be a complete servant/slave when you get back here, etc.

If you then return to town and blow off chat for a week, you're a shallow wanker who's been lying about his intentions to stimulate your fantasies while you were away. There's nothing wrong with consensual online fantasy, as long as you make clear that's what you're doing. When you pretend you're making real plans and you're not, that's what we call "lying."

Basically, if you can't be bothered to double-click a line in a chat window in two weeks to touch base with the guy you made plans with all summer, you are a wank, and you shouldn't act surprised when people treat you like the wank that you've demonstrated yourself to be.

Also, just FYI: when chat programs have a botguard on that require you to type a password, then typing the password merely opens the chat window. You still have to chat about things. Opening a chat window by typing the botguard password does not mean the guy on the other end suddenly has something to say to you.

Just in case that wasn't clear.