Boy cancelled for the second time in a row, although this time he told me about 12 hours in advance that he had a "date," rather than telling me 3 hours after he was supposed to arrive that he had a social commitment he didn't know about on time. He remains uncollared, and while he says he has been celibate while unlocked, I have not seen him in close to three weeks, with no meeting currently scheduled.
I am a big fan of the "three strikes" rule for BDSM relationships, but I don't advertise it because then it's a threat, not a policy. He's now cancelled two scheduled visits in a row, so I'm not scheduling a third - that's up to him, both to find a date and to clear it with me. If he does, and he cancels that one too, he won't get another opportunity.
Better to face reality than pretend something is there that's not. I see more and more why one my best (non-BDSM) friend calls today "Black Heart of Darkness Day."
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